New trend overtakes common ‘misyar’ phenomene
“Most requests for ‘misyar’ actually come from women,” he said.
“There are many newcomers to this type of work who only do it for making profits, failing to take into account the uniqueness of each situation,” she said.
“I receive 90 percent of marriage requests from men from various parts of the Kingdom, who mostly stipulate that their would-be bride be good-looking and employed,” she said.
“Youth are facing increased difficulty getting married because of the expenses involved. The average age for marriage in the Kingdom has risen from 15 to almost 25 or 30 thanks to costs and people seeking to complete their education.”
“Our reputation as trustworthy and decent matchmakers makes our profession widely accepted in our community,” said Umm Ali. “Honesty is essential in being able to meet expectations at both ends, otherwise the marriages would end in divorce and our rates would decline.” “I do not ask for a specific fee in matching men and women; I leave it to the family to decide,” she said.
“My kids had initially criticized me for my profession, but eventually became convinced that it is for the good of the community.”
Haya Qahtani, a marriage mediator, said that the matchmakers and mediators must ensure that they provide accurate information in order to gain the community’s trust.
Umm Ibrahim, a 60-year-old matchmaker, said that she has been involved in the profession for six years.
“I am sometimes called by the mothers of young would-be grooms or by single ladies,” she said.
“In fact, women are more likely to come to me than men. Most are single or divorcees, while men contact me when they want to find a second wife.”
Huda Al-Omari, a local, is reluctant to deal with matchmakers and warned community members, many of whom approve of the matchmaking profession, against dealing with online matchmakers without consulting with them over the phone.