A couple in their early 40s are experiencing sexual problems. The husband is feeling pressured since he can no longer satisfy his wife. A friend advised him to take certain tablets which are 100% natural. The tablets have proven beneficial. However, both husband and wife who are using these tablets can no longer function without the medicine. How should a Muslim couple deal with this sexual crisis?
The crisis is, in all likelihood, a punishment for past sexual abuses and misdemeanours. Innumerable people are suffering from partial and complete impotency. They had enslaved themselves to the demands of the bestial nafs, indulging in vices of moral turpitude. Remember, that every action has a sequel right here in this dunya. The punishment of the Aakhirah is a separate issue. Whilst the punishment of the Aakhirah could be averted by means of sincere Taubah (Repentance), the physical damage wrought by sin is sometimes enduring, lasting lifelong.
Young people, and even married ones, conducting themselves worse than even animals, indulge in a variety of acts of sexual perversion such as masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, etc. Then when the punishment of impotency and other forms of ailments strike, they frantically search for remedies, but to no avail. The temporary ‘relief’ which medicinal remedies offer comes at a heavy price. The health further deteriorates. Generally, there is no valid cure for impotency. All the stunt and gimmick remedies offered by physicians and even by quacks, cause more complications without really curing the disease which is the consequence of the sin of sexual perversion.
Also understand that every act which violates Allah’s Law of Hijaab is a nail in the coffin of potency. Thus, staring like an insane person at females or casting lascivious glances at ghair mahaareem, also diminishes potency. In fact, deriving pleasure in the mind by thinking of evil, zina and the like, also exercise a detrimental effect on a person’s potency. The punishment is commensurate to the crime.
The ‘crisis’ which this couple and innumerable other couples are confronted with, will remain with them lifelong. They have to come to terms with it and understand that this type of self-inflicted damage is irreparable. However, they have the consolation of Taubah to secure their success and happiness of the Aakhirah. Life is short. Allah Ta’ala is Most Merciful. He forgives all sins. The couple should simply exercise patience. Whether they adopt patience or not, they are helpless. Impatience is not the cure for impotency. However, patience and repentance may just be helpful. But, they should resign themselves to their current status for the little time they have left in this dunya.
Young people should take note and understand that by indulging in sexual perversion they will regret and cry when it is too late.